My Love

Silence may have found you
our love sustains;
I to you,
You to me.
No stalker,
No bully,
Nothing,
No one,
To interfere; I to you,
You to me.
We visit you and I in our dreams.
Peace be still, my heart know thy peace.

No longer torn asunder.
Together again,
I to you, You to me together always in our dreams.

Love knows no bounds;
no bounds contain.
Love real love;
I to you, You to me together always;
Love’s Reality

by Susan Louise Davis

Idolatry

You came to me in my dream
after such a long silent time
tentatively you visit

Your quiet voice
louder
louder still
Bearing pain
such great sorrow

Piercing my mind and body
Filling my heart
Like a thorn in the side
Pulsating with each heartbeat
I cry
before God
your pain
your agony
As helplessly I sit aside
Honoring your wishes
To refrain
No touch
No word
Another day bereft of your company
According to my faith “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. Where for, my dearly beloved, flee from idolatry.”
I Corinthians 10: 13, 14
Friends,
There is always a way out.  Many years ago I was in an abusive marriage.  My husband was an active alcoholic.  Initially we were in the honeymoon stage of our marriage where he could do no wrong and I allowed what may come because love knows no boundaries.   After a few months I became frustrated with the new found rules and regulations I was required to adhere to while he did his own thing outside of our home-life.
For days on end he wouldn’t come home and when he did we had a free for all for hours arguing over the way things are and the way things were NOT coming together to fulfill those dreams we spent endless hours putting together under candlelight, soft words and tender kisses.
Without realizing what I had done my husband had become my Idol; one that is adored, often blindly or excessively.  He and his unrealistic demands became my mission and I fell into the role of fulfilling his every demand.  I put aside my life of faith and stopped worshiping and praising my God.  Everything I did everyday focused on pleasing my husband even to the point of losing my own identity.
If you are in a relationship which takes the focus off of your spiritual walk.  If pleasing that person or thing is to the point of debasing yourself; you may have an idol in your life.   Consider the sacrifices you make to or for this thing or person.  According to my faith the only sacrifice I am asked to make is a sacrifice of praise.   Where is the cost in this?  There is none.  I lose nothing and gain everything because my God promises a way out.  He promises to line my life up accordingly and in so doing the joy of the Lord is my strength to overcome, to conquer any conquest which may try to distract me from my walk of faith.
Because my walk of faith is far more important to me than any other person, place or thing I separated myself from the idol in my life.  For many months I remained separated but willing for a reconciliation.  It is possible my spouse could have been delivered of alcohol abuse, it is possible he could be healed from whatever it is which troubled his soul so deeply that he had to drink to ease the pain.
In the end he chose to remain there in his bottle drinking away whatever it is that ails him and I had to leave him there.  Taking a broad stand for me and my small children.  Facing the world head on and whatever it had to throw my way.  Which was a greater challenge than I was actually prepared for but the alternative was not something I was willing to rear my children in.
Any parent willing to stay with an abusive person for the sake of LOVE is  selfish. Your children deserve a safe place to come home to each and every day. Any parent willing to expose their child to a dangerous situation doesn’t deserve those children and are establishing a breeding ground for misery and contempt.  Any parent remaining in an abusive situation even after it has been established and documented by the authorities is culpable and can be charged with endangerment.  No LOVE is worth losing your children over.  Focus, see the situation for what it is and allow yourself to move on if not for yourself  then for your children; they will respect you in the long run for sticking to your decision to move on.
by Susan Louise Davis

Where is the Mystery?

As parents we are responsible for what our children are exposed to and when. Granted there is that small percentage of information which will be shared with our children in the run of everyday life whether it be through the media, at school, a neighbors, the library wherever it may be, we still have a responsibility to water down the exposure in order to preserve our children’ s innocence.

I’ve heard the justifications, “They are gonna learn it sometime, I want them to learn it with me, from me.” Or the “The world is a crappy place, the sooner they realize it the better.”

I don’t agree, if we steal the mystery of life from our children early on it establishes a life of oppression, depression, anger, outrage the negative list goes on and on. Why raise a bunch of discouraged angry children when we have the perfect opportunity to rear a well adjusted individual sustained by hope, positive thoughts and joy?

Seriously I know the people of the world will corrupt our children but must we help?

Just because the information is out there and you know one day your child will be exposed to it doesn’t mean you must expose them to it from the start. Their little brains are not equipped to process information on an adult level not even if you explain the very smallest of details.

Think about it, if you think your hands are full now while your children are still young and impressionable imagine what your hands will be full of when they become preteens and already know about sex, drugs, manipulation and how to use them.

Parents the programs you expose your children to, view them first. Use some common sense.

Recently I was exposed to a television program in a family setting with a 12 year old girl present wherein she was educated about rape, infidelity, and how a father artificially inseminates his daughter not much older than the 12 year old viewing the program. Needless to say when I mentioned the age factor of this child and the maturity of the program I was put in my place by a 30 something upstart who thought the program was suitable for a 12 year old especially since the parent was there to explain it. Seriously?!

When I was 12 I didn’t know about rape, adultery or artificial insemination. My father never saw me at that age naked and he certainly didn’t tie me up to artificially impregnate me with semen from a man my mother cheated with.

The only way we will win our nation back from the streets is to stop raising our children as if they are born of the streets. Give them their dignity and innocence back and curb your appetite for the seedier side of life which is corrupting our children.

The change begins with you. Expose yourself to more positive, uplifting media, teach your children acts of kindness by being kind. Set the example, be the example and allow our children their innocence.

Set the security settings on the television, age ratings on movies are there as a guideline but you make the final decision on which programs your child should be entertained by, use the parental settings on the computer and know who your child is associating with. Its past time to take control back, it is past time to save our children from the wolves who we have allowed to enter our homes through the media. Be a nation of saviors, spread the good news of love and let it begin in your home with structure, boundaries and self discipline.

See what your school system is offering in way of education, take them to the library and expose them to literary works which the school system may not, test your child’s skills with spelling bees, word games and history challenge. Take that time out of your schedule and feed into the very real needs of your child. If you don’t someone else will and the poison they feed your child will be nothing short of a quick demise of their innocence and your relationship with that child.

Just because we live in a self gratification day and age does not mean we should fill those wants and desires right now. Teach your child to establish goals show them how to wait for what they want.

Children for the most part do learn by example. Consider your choices and what those choices expose your child to. Children are our heritage, what we teach them today will be reflected in their lives tomorrow.  Keep in mind there is no undoing the seeds we sow in their childhood.  So sow good seed and don’t wait on the neighbor, the daycare or babysitter and especially don’t wait on that one good teacher out of a million to pop up in your child’s academic life to instill wonderful tid-bits of information and enlightenment.

Its your job, you chose to take on the world when you brought your child into this world; take the world on, mold it, transform it into a place your child will look forward to bringing their children into. Guarantee a future of good things by planting good things in your child and they in turn will guarantee a future for the good of all.

by Susan Louise Davis

Cheer

A few years ago I noticed my eldest son’s fascination with juggling things which he seemed to do quite easily. Although I do recall his juggling years previously he didn’t appear to be dedicated to the art so I gave the matter no further thought.

As usual Christmas was donning on us and I asked the typical, “What do you want for Christmas?” my son immediately responded, “A Contact Juggling ball”.

Okay, interesting, “And uh what,” thought I, “is a Contact Juggling ball?” he must have read my mind…grinning the biggest grin my son could muster he chuckled and said, “Let me show you.” We headed into the office and there with the use of the world wide web he pulled up a picture on the computer and showed me what a Contact Juggling ball looks like. Accessing another popular web site I soon saw a video depicting the use of this clear acrylic sphere and knew my son had more than a mild fascination with juggling.

I couldn’t help but encourage his interest and for Christmas I invested in his first Contact Juggling ball. In my son’s hands this clear ball became lively and fun. The use of the ball entices the viewer to smile, giggle and desire to unravel the mystery of the ball. My son worked on various moves, choreographed the use and one can now find him on a popular video website for researchers to view.
As a parent I have become aware that life is a transition which catches up to our children in adulthood. It is in this place of transition in which my active role as ‘navigator’ in my child’s life becomes grossly removed for the most part. Gracefully or no, I must bow out and allow my child to master the role of ‘navigator’ in their own life.

I see for myself the sacrifices my son is willing to make to do something peculiar with his life. There will be no technical college in the near future, no engineering degree. He will not serve in the military as his grandfather did nor pursue a career in law, politics or medicine.

He has chosen a different route, one in which clowning about is acceptable and fulfilling and endearing. In all the choices available to my son his choice is to bring cheer, to give cheer to be cheer. 

Recently while shopping,  I found a wall plaque which read “Don’t dream your life, Live your dreams” a peace which surpasses all human understanding flowed into my very bones and I knew without a shadow of a doubt that all will be well with my son on his journey.

I encourage you all to follow your dreams, plan for them, expect them to be fulfilled and they will be…
by Susan Louise Davis