There is no condemnation…

1 Corinthians 13:4-7
New International Version (NIV)
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

If you were to ask, “What is your definition of Love?” you will probably receive the same responses I have, “Love is when I get what I want, wearing new clothes, jewelry, diamonds, a new car or even a house full of designer everything, a pot of stew or chicken noodle soup. And what about these: Love is that warm feeling deep in your stomach when the one you want comes in the room, a hug, a kiss.” Friends, Love is not a thing you can wear, heat on the stove, purchase or wrap your arms around.

A young woman I am counseling came to me with great concerns over marital problems. Deeply troubled she could not explain just why her spouses very confession of Love for her caused such deep seeded anger in her. In due time it became apparent why his confession of Love angered her in such a huge way. He was a squanderer of their finances to the point that often her needs were not met and their tithes were not paid regularly. Because her husband was not honest about the finances she could not trust him and because he did not pay the bills accordingly they lost what was so diligently earned. He did not protect her from destitution but opened the door to it. Love is honest it rejoices in the truth. Because he consistently frivolously misspent the finances she could not forgive her spouse and move on. The list of offences soon became an indelible mark not only in her mind but in her heart and so she began to keep a list of offenses which she reminded him of each and every time they argued.

A young man and his spouse were having ongoing problems. She had a background of going to and fro her divorced parents and out of this coming and going came much disorganization and lack of training. This young woman came to me concerned about how she continually let her husband down because of her inability to consistently keep up her home. Piles of dirty dishes, laundry and filthy floors followed them in nearly every room to the point of a pest control problem and harsh words to follow. As much as they Love one another and desire to spend their lives together the young husband was fed up, frustrated and resentful. Love is not self seeking and until this young woman realized this she would always put everyone and everything aside to fulfill that which she desired. Self absorption is a modern day problem and often is not addressed and as a very real problem it can be the number one reason relationships fail. Without hope and perseverance to do better this young couple will fall prey to statistics.

A young mother I have counseled has sought after the same type of man to fulfill her image of a real man. He is aggressive, assertive, bold, outspoken and often handsome. Each and every attempt she made to connect with a man of these qualities left her wanting for more. A constant excercise in futility as she left one failed relationship after another. While working on marriage number two it dawned on her, though she moved in the very principles of Love her groom does not. We can be Christians moving in Love and be unequally bonded to another Christian and in this case this young woman had bound herself to a man who Loves with a worldly concept and not with the foundational Love of Christ. Know the difference, compare this definition of Love to that of the relationship you share with a potential spouse often before you go to the next level.

There is much confusion about what Love is and isn’t but in this I can assure you, if one applies the passages of:
I Corinthians 13: 4-7 daily one will surely see Love in action.
People I challenge you lets stop the world, step off the planet and try something new for just a week, keeping a journal while exercising the definition of Love and see what your actions produce.

This exercise in Love as an action word allows one to see the true image one reflects. The very principal of Love as an action word allows the individual to clearly see just where loved ones are at in their life and how the expression of Love as an action word positively affects reciprocal action to said expression.

Simply telling a body you Love them is not enough without action, Love fails.


Able to wait without becoming annoyed or anxious.
A person receiving or registered to receive medical treatment.
adjective. uncomplaining – long-suffering – enduring – tolerant
noun. case – invalid

A group of people or things having similar characteristics: “all kinds of music”.
Having or showing a friendly, generous, and considerate nature: “a kind woman”.
noun. sort – type – species – nature – genus – class – variety
adjective. kindly – nice – good – gentle – amiable – benign

Talk with excessive pride and self-satisfaction about one’s achievements, possessions, or abilities.
An act of talking with excessive pride and self-satisfaction.
verb. brag – vaunt – swagger – talk big
noun. brag – vaunt – pride – ostentation – bragging – swank

Feeling or showing pride: “a proud grandma of three boys”.
(of an event, achievement, etc.) Causing someone to feel this way: “a proud history of innovation”.
haughty – arrogant – lofty – supercilious – conceited

A state of shame or disgrace.
Bring shame or disgrace on.
noun. dishonour – disgrace – shame – ignominy – infamy
verb. dishonour – disgrace – shame

self seeking
opportunism: taking advantage of opportunities without regard for the consequences for others.

A strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility.
Fill (someone) with such a feeling; provoke anger in.
noun. wrath – ire – rage – dander – fury – irritation
verb. irritate – vex – exasperate – incense – provoke – rile

To Love with the Love of Christ–there is no list of wrong doings, no more “remember when you did” constructive heated conversation is based on the here and now, no more dredging up of the past

Profoundly immoral and malevolent.
Profound immorality, wickedness, and depravity, esp. when regarded as a supernatural force.
adjective. wicked – bad – ill – vicious – malign – sinister
noun. harm – ill – mischief – wrong – disaster – wickedness

The quality or state of being true: “the truth of her accusation”.
That which is true or in accordance with fact or reality: “tell me the truth”.
sooth – verity – reality – fact – veracity – fidelity

Keep safe from harm or injury: “he protected her from the attack”; “certain vitamins may protect against heart disease”.
Aim to preserve (a threatened plant or animal species) by legislating against collecting or hunting.
defend – guard – safeguard – shelter – shield – preserve

Firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.
Believe in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of.
noun. confidence – faith – credit – reliance – belief
verb. believe – confide – rely – credit – hope – entrust

A feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen.
Want something to happen or be the case: “he’s hoping for compensation”; “I hope that the kids are OK”.
noun. expectation – expectancy – expectance – trust – promise
verb. trust – expect – anticipate

Continue in a course of action even in the face of difficulty or with little or no indication of success.


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